Spare the rod, spoil the child.

It is an open secret that the youth of the 70's and the 80's grew up knowing that they needed to affiliate themselves with either education or politics, or the arts for the few brave ones who did not mind to withstand the wrath of the authorities. Even those that went to school, their parents encouraged them to follow the then prestigious careers like teaching and medicine or law for some. Any career outside that bracket was unheard of and anyone even some folks still considered sports and the arts to be extra mural activities and they would burn with anger if a child would think of following any of them as a career. This was, of course in the era where the sight of a police van meant that everyone would have to be athletic and sprint for their dear life, worse of all is that at times it was for no reason, especially in the black communities.

I still remember the days where playing in the streets or going AWOL all day and only coming back towards supper time was normal and actually encouraged by most parents, especially during school holidays. No one had the biggest fear of child kidnapping or any of the evil actions taking place in our society today.

Back to careers, it saddens me to see how disciplining a child lately in South Africa have taken a different route and the school kids are encouraged to hit back at teachers...alas this generation is perishing quicker than the prophets had thought.

I am not the oldest of them all but the little I know is that when I was small, every parent in the community was your your parent and was allowed to discipline you as a child, even if they may not necessarily know you or be biologically related to you. The era where the illumination of a street light meant that every child should be indoors, like it or not. The kids did not have guts to talk back to their parents, let alone question any rule that was placed by their superiors.

It seems like the emergence of the democracy has changed it all and kids have more rights than lefts.  In the past few weeks the student unions have been quoted in the news saying that school children should fight back when being punished by their teachers, the same people I knew as parents when I was still in uniform. A child can say what they want, when they want it and at times the parents have to be the ones who back off an argument or they risk being arrested.

I do not have a problem with a law protecting children against abuse or any unfair treatment but now my question is; How do we expect this children to learn the morals and respect the society if we deny them discipline? Doesn't the bible says spare the rod and spoil the child? See, the very same children you don't want to discipline, are very quick to jump into adult activities and they make babies like the world is ending tomorrow. You find a teenager having 2 or 3 children at age 18 or 19 and no parent dares to question them, at that time they don't even have a mere Grade 12 certificate. How then will they raise their own children if they haven't been disciplined and know nothing about parenting?

Is this the future we want for our country?

As I see it...

Rally behind the Boks #HomeGroundAdvantage #BokkeFriday

With the right support and backing from the nation, anything is possible.
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The critics seems to have already written off Heyneke Meyer’s boys already even before they touch down at the Queen’s home for this year’s edition of the IRB senior men’s tournament to be staged mid-September.

The Bok mentor is expected to name his final 31 man squad this coming Friday (31 August) but the ‘experts’ have already slammed the 2007 Champions based on the current preparations. What is worse is that even the latest coach to ever lift the Webb Ellis trophy with the South African giants is not giving them any chance. Jake White was under the same pressure in ’07 if my memory serves me well although the difference this time around is that Meyer has more injury concerns than White; now director of coaching at the French side Montpelier.

I have to stress the fact that in major tournaments, the inexperienced lads are able to rise to the occasion due to the under-dog tag on their shoulders. One particular incident that comes to mind is how the then 20 year old Francois Steyn helped Jake White’s charges when the chips were down and how Pat Lambie took matters to his own hands in 2011 although we did not survive that notorious quarter final match.

Yes the Schalk Burgers of this world and the 38 year old Victor Matfield still has a few litres left in their tank to ensure that the green and gold rise to the top again but let us not write off the young lads wanting to make a name for themselves. By the look of things, the Sharks speedster-Lwazi mvovo may emulate Bryan Habana or even go a little step further. 
One cannot brush off the fact that the heat-beat of the scrum in the form of Jannie and Bismarck du Plessis, and Tendai Mtawarira can do the job.

Besides all this hooo haa, I believe the only and best thing that can happen to the Boks this year at the world cup is if the whole country can back them. I am not saying we are not, but the fact that the brains in the rugby fraternity are already writing them off will eventually get to their heads and kill the morale thus burying any small chance that the boys had.  
Sometimes in difficult circumstances like these; only the mental strength can take you through. If we motivate the boys, they will surely want to fight for the nation and bring back hope. Let us unite as the rainbow nation and fill the streets with green and gold, let us have the Bokke Fridays and I can guarantee you one thing, The Springboks will sing Nkosi sikelela with pride knowing that 49+ Million people have their back.

Go Bokke

Love and respect your mother, she loves you above all

Here I find myself listen to Tshepiso Motaung’s music like my life depend on it, well doesn’t it? It has been 11 odd years since the last day I last spoke to my mother, the only person on this huge planet who understood me clearly and knew when something was wrong with me. This is the same woman who, at the peak of her life as a 20 year old had to share her breath with me even before the unforgiving world could know my name. She proudly watched her body change shape daily hoping that she will bring a new breath of life the cruel world. She took care of me until the greedy angel of death laid its eyes on her.  Shame on you death.

At the tender age of 15 my Rose was taken from me. The only person who when I came running to after a fight at school she would simply look at me and know whether it was my fault or not. She knew when I was right and when I was at fault. She was the only soul I could no matter the lies I thought I could tell, I could never lie to her and the very same soul that I drew my inspiration from, regardless of our fights. As a teenager when I was supposed to be frustrated by adolescence like “other kids”, I got full time job of looking after my two younger sisters and this is when I knew that life is nie pap ‘n vleis. It is at this period in my life I learned not to depend on anyone but the superior being and giver of life Jesus Christ, life revealed itself to be one hell-of-a roller coaster. Shame on you death.

As much as I would have liked to do the normal things that teenagers my age did, I simply could not. I had to grow up very quick, I had to mature quickly, I had to naturally learn the rules of the game by default. I had to learn the meaning of the famous phrase “eat or be eaten”. Not to say I would not have learned this skills if she was alive but it simply because I knew that I did not have a “lawyer” that would bail me from my mistakes anymore. I realised along the way that since death had decided to orphan me and sisters, the world would not give a rat’s ass whether we fell into the routine trap for the ‘most’ teenagers. The “usual life” which is drugs and alcohol or any of the related dangers of which children my age found them in, regardless of whether or not they had parents.  I realised that everyone expected it and would be just a normal thing since I was a rebel even when my Rose (Her real name is Palesa meaning Rose) was still alive. Shame on you death.

It does not matter who says what, in life the absence of a mother is just a rough ride especially if she get “absent” at an early age. She is like salt to the food, regardless of whether you are diabetic or not, if the food does not have salt it is tasteless and worthless. Just like Life without Christ has no meaning. A mother is just that one person who will understand you and know what you mean when the world has turned on you and at times wants to kill you for no reason, go read about the death of Jesus and you will know where his mother during his death.

As South Africa is still celebrating the women’s month, I have a message to the little rascals mis-treating their mothers and talking ill of them: If she did not love you, you will not even breathing at this moment. It does not matter how she is treating you or how bad you think she is, she loves you more than you can imagine. She may not be educated as you are but she knows the meaning of true-love, you are the evidence and witness or whatever. She may have done unwise decisions in the past or probably even now, but she deserves some respect; she saw the sun before you. She chose not to leave you at the hospital; she chose not to abort you. She has scarified more than you can imagine for you, the little you can do is say thank you.

Don’t wake up one day when she is not more and wish you told her how much she means to you or how much you appreciate her. After reading this, go and tell her you are sorry for being the brat you have been lately…she will forgive you, she is your mother after all.

Is it the correct time to introduce another language into our education system?

One would think that the education department would try to stabilize the situation with regards to the pass rates and the improvement of Maths and Science before introducing another subject, let alone Chinese.

It is an open secret that our current system is not the best in terms of results and a few administrative hiccups with Gauteng MEC of education Panyaza Lesufi  all over the province trying to put out the flames. What is unclear here is how will this new language be implemented and why do we as a young democratic country feel the need to burden ourselves with it. Is this a requirement for every member of the BRICS?  If yes then let us take our teachers to Russia and teach them isiZulu and see if this will get to work. Eye Witness News reported two years ago that over 400 million Chinese people could not speak the language but here we have our government willing to bring it to our shores. Will we learn a foreign language faster than our own languages? The very same language it’s natives are battling with?

I am not saying we should not try to learn other people’s languages as we already have French and Portuguese learners on the education system but my question is; Is the demand for the language that great for it to be introduced this soon or is the another reason we are not told of? Shouldn’t we try to focus on improving the literacy levels with our 11 official languages before we can add a few more other languages?

I mean, how do you explain a situation where the country has 11 official languages and less than half of the population knows a maximum of 4 languages and still we introduce an additional language to be taught at school? In the schools we are having a trouble of shortage of well-equipped teachers  which is why the pass rate is so low yet our government feels like that is not enough and they should add a Chinese (Mandarin) language to the school system. I am not xenophobic here but the same children you want to teach Mandarin are the same getting 30% for their home language at school. Even the medium of instruction, English, is not getting any justice in the education system due to the emergence of social media, the children cannot construct a proper English sentence. Clearly it is going to take us over 10 years before we can produce a 20% pass rate on the Mandarin language if nothing is changed on the current system.

Lastly, who is going to pay those teachers and the study material? The tax payers? Do they even have a say in this?  A few years ago we had text-books scandals flooding Limpopo province but I can guarantee you one thing here; the study material from the east will be all over the country like the political T-shirts at a rally once the plan has been fully implemented. And oh, this is the same language spoken by a certain Dalai Lama that has been denied entry into the country countless times like a leprosy patient during the Biblical times.

As I see it.

Another one bites the dust

There we go again

A disappointed Igesund when he heard that SAFA won't keep him beyond August

The marry-go-round of South African Football has started again and the grinding machine does not seem to stop firing coaches. Whoever is next on that hot seat will not last even the mere 2 years. As Ted Dumitru has said, South African brand of football is long overdue and honestly, whoever takes that seat won't last unless someone at SAFA house understand that the reason Brazil are five times world champions is because in all those golden years, they were playing their own home-grown brand.

I am not saying foreign coaches are bad; all I am saying is it will take time for a local coach to get the correct combination but in time, results will come. Do we only want a quick fix as a footballing nation or we want consistency the results? That will not happen overnight. My point is; the sacking of Igesund was premature. Didn't Bafana at some stage under the very same Gordon upset the current world champions on home soil? Isn’t this man's track record at the helm of the national team enough to make him keep his job?

My plea to Dany Jordan and the rest of his crew: put the interests of South African football before your own personal glory. We all know that you are a good administrator of football hence under your leadership we were able to stage the best World Cup ever on African soil, but at the moment it’s not about wielding that axe just because you can. Think about our football in say 10 years from now. Where will Bafana Bafana be at that time? The only tournament that they will play is the COSA FA...that because no one really has to qualify for that, or we will play big tournaments only if we get to host them, like it has been the trend in the past four years (2010 World Cup included).

It’s about time someone put the country first now that Madiba is gone.